Sunny, my twelve year old son, startled us, by saying those words so loud that we both stopped what we were discussing and looked at him. He was coming out of his room after long nap, and must have overheard Atul insisting me to arrange for ‘party’ at home.
“That would be cool”, continued, full awake now. His eyes, gleaming with excitement.
“Hmmm. Lets check with dad”, I said.
“You and uncle can convince him.. Rite? Uncle?”, he was searching for an answer in our blank expressions. “Well, I will ask Dad!”, he said running out into the garden where Rex was watering plants like he does every weekend….
I was standing at the window, watching him leaping, in big steps towards Rex..
Atul, came up to me and staring out at them said..
The words failed him…
But I could imagine what he wanted to say and why words failed him..
For, what words could describe the sight in front of us. Rex, all loving cheerful dad, listening to the excited child Sunny, walking hand in hand towards us..
For, what words could describe the joy that comes after overcoming the apprehensions of raising a child by a gay couple in India. Apprehensions that were vanquished mostly by the innocent and mature Sunny who turned out to be more than we ever hoped for in a child..
Sunny was seven, when we got him home. It is hard to believe, he is already twelve… It seems like, he has only been with us for a week and yet, we can’t imagine our life without him..
And those two years, spent in convincing everyone that we could adopt him, is like a nightmare that never happened..
“Whatz with the party?” Rex asked, smiling at us.
“Ask Atul, it is his idea.”, I pointed to Atul.
Atul was hesitating to say why he thought I should be arranging for a party, in front of Sunny..
I nodded, indicating him to repeat it..
“I was thinking” he started hesitatingly, “during the next months g… (he was careful to use the word) pride, after the parade, we could have a small party here, play one of the movies, have dinner and desserts, may be a potluck…”
Seeing that, neither I nor Rex were making any comment, he added.
“And more over, you guys are yet to treat us all for getting into a relationship. It is going to be 10 years this coming june.. isn’t it?”
We hardly had any gatherings at home since Sunny arrived and we never went to any party. Sunny has accepted Us, but is he old enough to face the gay crowd? It will some day face it with or without us, but should we take the chance?
Would be be ok with the overly affectionate hugs and kisses that are inadvertantly exchanged between gay friends? Can we have him around gay friends whose type is young twinks? How would he react to the gay comments and jokes that might be passed at him or around him?
After that long pause, it was not I or Rex but Sunny that said. “Dads, please.. lets have the party. I want to invite my friends, I want them to come and see that gay people have decent parties too.”
Hmmm. Can we have a decent gay party?